“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter.
It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place.
It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
On the Wall
From My Diary
We all experience disappointment and sorrow in life. Many people I know right now are going through difficult times and leaning on their faith, family, and friends to get through them. I know how consuming problems, uninvited change, and loss can quickly take over your life, you can’t think about anything else, you can’t talk about anything else, and every breath you take feels shallow…you don’t think you can possibly get through one more day. All you want is the problem to be solved, or the person that has gone from your life back, the illness gone, so you can get back on that path of living your life…and to happiness and breathing deeply. Sometimes, you even feel selfish for wanting that.
Did you ever notice how motivated you get when you are sick for a few days? Suddenly there is time to just be with yourself, and you start wanting to do things, more so than when you were healthy enough to actually accomplish them. This feeling gets super-heightened when you are in bed with a lupus flare for nine months…let me tell you. So many things you want to do, and get done, and get through, and get over in life come to the forefront of your mind.
We can’t avoid pain, struggle, or tragedy so we have to live life to the fullest and be grateful for it because true joy can then be experienced in the smallest of things in every day life.
First you must give yourself a respite when you can. This will give you renewed strength that you can use in times of trouble, for yourself and for your loved ones.
Giving and making other people happy instead of expecting happiness to come to you is another way to approach any type of sorrow you might experience. Exploring new things and spending time with the people you care about and who care about you is important. Stop overextending yourself especially if you are already working full time. Saying no more and limiting your availability, can truly help you discover what you really value in life if you take the time to figure it out. If you have a passion, follow it now rather than later, later is not guaranteed for any of us.
So here’s to pursuing your dreams and helping each other now, when we can, both in joy and sorrow.